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The Steady Ship Relationship
You’ve built a stable, dependable foundation. Commitment feels easy and natural. You trust each other and know what to expect. But let’s be honest — could things feel a little more vibrant? Predictability is safe, but adventure fuels connection. Are you intentionally making space for surprise and play?
The Passionate Partners Relationship
You’re that couple. People see you and want what you got – chemistry, attraction, and excitement flow easily between you. It’s a beautiful thing! Maybe New Relationship Energy is in full effect, but when those chemicals wear off, what’s left behind? Deep emotional intimacy requires more than passion. Are you exposing your whole self – fears, hopes, flaws – and feeling unconditionally accepted? What new dimensions of closeness could you explore?
The Conscious Communicators Relationship
You’ve Mastered Honest Conversations. Time for More Play
You are emotional intelligence powerhouses. You speak your truth, listen empathetically, and fight fair. Conflict doesn’t scare you, you handle it with maturity and grace. Amazing! But not every moment needs to be a deep process. How often are you laughing, playing, and being silly together? Connection also lives in lightness.
Think You’re “Too Jealous” for an Open Relationship? Think Again.
A step-by-step guide to working through the yucky feels and building something sustainable
For a long time, I thought I was one of those people who couldn’t do non-monogamy. I believed that my boyfriends should be laser focused on me, and if they cast an eye toward other women it was disrespectful.
How Self-Sabotage Shows Up in Your Relationship (and What You Can Do About It)
You want closeness. You want to feel chosen. You want ease, affection, shared goals, a touch of magic, and some damn space to breathe. But if you’re like most people, you may be reacting in ways that sabotage the very things you say you want.
How to Approach Difficult Conversations with Your Partner (Without Feeling Shut Down or Blowing Up Your Relationship)
You’re not a bad partner for wanting more, you’re just growing. And you deserve to have honest, expansive conversations, even the uncomfortable ones. This guide walks you through how to start those conversations with care, clarity, and a high chance of success. And at the very end I’ll share 2 unexpected, research-based tips that make you more empathetic and warm during those tough chats – things you can put into action today.
Surprising Ways Being Poly Makes Us Better Parents (Even When Our Kids Don’t Know)
Let’s start with some real talk. Being poly isn’t the easy path, especially as a parent. (Though being monogamous actually sounds harder to me, because of all the suppression it would require… but I digress). Choosing this unconventional path requires attention and intention.
Why My Relationship Got Better When We Stopped Being Everything to Each Other
A lot of people believe that being in love means meeting every single need your partner has – emotional, sexual, intellectual, spiritual, social. All of it. You’re not just their person, you’re supposed to be their everything.
What Loving Couples Get Wrong About Loyalty
You meet someone at a party. They’re married. As you shake hands, they glance at you, then look quickly away, avoiding eye contact like it’s an affair waiting to happen. Flirtation isn’t allowed, and even lingering too long in someone’s gaze could be considered a betrayal. To me, their behavior says “I won’t cheat on my partner and I want communicate this.”
Not a Phase: How Some Version of “Open” Can Help Your Relationship Survive (and Thrive)
You know what’s exhausting? Living in dissatisfaction and pretending everything is fine. And yes, sometimes everything IS fine (don’t forget to write in that gratitude journal!) but deep down, you know there’s something missing. You feel like you’ve given up the freedom, vitality and fun of your youth. Getting older, responsibilities. It all feels a little dull.