Includes guidance for kids of different ages!

Let’s be honest – this life takes work

Let’s start with some real talk. Being poly isn’t the easy path, especially as a parent. (Though being monogamous actually sounds harder to me, because of all the suppression it would require… but I digress). Choosing this unconventional path requires attention and intention.

A lot of people believe that being in love means meeting every single need your partner has – emotional, sexual, intellectual, spiritual, social. All of it. You’re not just their person, you’re supposed to be their everything.

This puts a lot of pressure on a relationship.  Let’s be real, that puts a lot of pressure on a person

You meet someone at a party. They’re married. As you shake hands, they glance at you, then look quickly away, avoiding eye contact like it’s an affair waiting to happen. Flirtation isn’t allowed, and even lingering too long in someone’s gaze could be considered a betrayal. To me, their behavior says “I won’t cheat on my partner and I want communicate this.”

You know what’s exhausting? Living in dissatisfaction and pretending everything is fine. And yes, sometimes everything IS fine (don’t forget to write in that gratitude journal!) but deep down, you know there’s something missing. You feel like you’ve given up the freedom, vitality and fun of your youth. Getting older, responsibilities. It all feels a little dull.